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This blog is a follow up to: "My Own Bullying Experience". The only bullies that won't be mentioned are ones in which there have been no changes since the last blog. The woman with the autistic child While she has done ALOT in the past, as of now, she has left me alone. She's improved a bit in how she treats others and how she is over all. I hope she continues to do so. If she does, she can be the type of person people would love to know and have as a friend. I think a large part of what made her how she was, was this group of older ladies (our age and older) persistently going after her at the direction of the one they all listened to... this woman whom was once an attorney, but disbarred. Being that this woman has owned her part in what she has done, that means there is hope. Group of older ladies & their CLOSE male friends, often directed by disbarred attorney. In my last blog I spoke of this group of older ladies and some guys they had in their little circle. The main person (female) at the center of this was a woman I thought I knew. She was often accused of being this Disbarred Attorney that's been posted about on multiple sites. One of them being the same site I was unjustly posted on by the one whom I referred to as the "bully blogger" in my prior blog. So that is part of the reason why I did not believe she was this Disbarred Attorney. I figured since I, and others, were lied about, that she was lied about as well. Sadly the Disbarred Attorney is one of very few wasn't lied about. A vast majority of what the Bully Blogger has said about her IS true. Another site Disbarred Attorney is on is one created by this man whom claims to be antibully and has bought a ".com" in her name. There was someone else that had an entire blog site about her and stuff she has done. But I had forgotten where it is. For the longest time I did not want to believe that this woman I had befriends was this Disbarred Attorney. The largest reason I did not was because the same people accusing her of being her were rather abusive and cruel towards me. What reason did I have to even believe them? Why believe people that were persistently attacking me, lying about me, stalking me, threatening me, and trying to get others after me? What ultimately lead me to the conclusion that this woman WAS in fact Disbarred Attorney was certain behaviors or hers matched claims made by multiple people that had no connection to each others. That and one say when she was complaining and making false claims about me, there were ALOT of IPs from the same place where her husband practices law and she use to that were looking my my forums. Particularly all over my "My Own Bullying Experience" blog. Basically a combination of things. But I will get into that in a moment. That and give a more detailed account of what she and her closest friends have pulled on me. In relation to claims made about her and their behavior. It's been claimed that Disbarred Attorney and her friends "attack people's jobs". A few have even said they attack where people live as in file false complaints to get them kicked out. One things Disbarred Attorney and her friends love to do is bother those known to their victims whether it be friends, family, co-workers, or acquaintences. A friend of Disbarred Attorney has even called the job of one woman, who works at a law firm, to try to get her fired. The better way to handle it instead of ranting and raging, would have been to file a complaint. When someone calls ranting and raging, who wants to listen to them? It makes THEM look like the problem even if they have a legit complaint. Disbarred Attorney, along with that one friend of hers that lives in the UK, have actively and persistently tried to find out where the woman with the autistic child works. While that woman is guilty of alot, NO ONE deserves to be harassed on the job. Since Disbarred Attorney and her friends can't cost em a job I don't have and a home I 100% own, they've resorted to other ways to try to interfere in my life beyond online. One of the ways is they attempted to get me banned from a local movie theatre. Unfortunately for them, but fortunately for me, it failed in a major way. I produced proof of threats made against me. The type of proof that can't be denied. Also I said a few things to raise some questions. One of them being "If I was such a bother to the extent being said that ion the night's in question, how come those nights, not one person exited the theatre in that establishment to complain about me?". Also on another night they filed false complaints against me with that particular theatre, I was never even there. I proved I was elsewhere that night. I also pointed out accounts made to mock me in a cruel manner. Also the claim that was made that I was "I can live tweet if I f**king want to" was proven to not be by me. Apparently Disbarred Attorney and her bunch tried to claim a friend of mine was me. That failed when my friend, whom did make that remake prove we were 2 different people. It also helped that people who knew me stood up for me and my good character. It took a short time to get this dealt with. I go to multiple theatres now. Each one that I go to has been made aware of this failed attempt to get me banned from that one theatre. Also, they've been made aware of their stalking potential, habit of causing trouble. Other places I frequent have also been made aware just in case. Another way Disbarred Attorney, that woman from the UK, and those they've "directed" have tried to interfere in my life is to bother my friends. They've accused one friend of mine of being another all because they're in the same line of work. They've messages friends of mine on Twitter and have accused them of being me for a number of reasons. One of them is hoping they will choose to not be my friend just to avoid their abuse. Another is to get them to think I had to have done something to get them so upset so they start to doubt me and turn against me. Another reason is to make it look like "trouble always follows". One thing the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch loves to do is take something the victim did (that isn't bad) and try to make it look like it was done for some nefarious purpose. This one man was doing some work for charity. Disbarred Attorney and those whom she lied to, attacked this man's good character and accused him falsely of a charity scam. One of the Canadian guys known "WELL" to Disbarred Attorney and the woman from the UK attacked me for a tweet in which I post a short video of people coming out of a movie theatre. That guy said he would disable my phone in a major way. I wasn't focusing on anyone in particular. I was showing that crowds were there for Avengers Infinity War and left the theatre happy with their experience. This man tried to make it look like I was focusing on and were after people's kids. He even went on a mini-tyrade claiming how wrong I was and how whenever I record I should ask permission of everyone in the video. Let's examine this failed logic. When a news caster does a news story at the steps of a courthouse, okay I guess they are in the wrong unless they go to each and every person that the broadcast that passes by. When people go on a trip, they take pictures. So if someone takes a picture of the capital building in Washington DC, they're in the wrong unless they go to every person in the background and ask them if it is okay. This pretty much shows that man was trying to invent reasons to attack me. As he was, Disbarred Attorney, the woman from the UK, and some of their other friends chose to "like" and "retweet" his abusive posts. Even while Disbarred Attorney pretended to be my friend. One of the worst things Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have done is create and manage profiles on twitter made to stir trouble with those who hate the victim to cause them more trouble and to stir trouble for their victims to get them more haters. Often times profiles would "pop up" to attack those who argued or disagreed with them, but mostly when it also happened to someone they wanted to get the blame. It's a pattern of their behavior I recently just picked up on as it has happened quite numerous times. They get bothered. Then I get bothered. THEN they create a profile to poke them. Thus making it seem like I am retaliating. While "some" of my other bullies have created profiles to attack themselves to smear their victims, Disbarred Attorney and her bunch took advantage of this. Things would be twisted to make it seem like they were 100% behind everything so they could get away with anything they pulled. While my bullies are guilty of alot, Disbarred attorney and her bunch tried to add to the mix. Sometimes Disbarred Attorney and her bunch would make random profiles to attack bullies of people they wanted to keep in their fold and use. The purpose of this is to get that person's bullies to attack them all so they can comfort the person just to make it appear as if they are a good friend. Sometimes this is used later on to make it seem like they've done oh so much for the person to guilt them into staying within their fold. Also done to obligate the person into helping them report people they just don't like for whatever petty reason. Often done to those they perceive as a threat to their tactics and way of life. Especially those who dare speak the truth about them. Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have made profiles pretending to be their victims. It's done mostly on Twitter and has even been done on Kik messenger. Not sure which one of them did this, but one of them made a kik messenger profile similar to the one I had at the time. I highly suspect it was either the Disbarred Attorney herself, her friend from the UK, or their friend that's pushing 50 and trolling others for whatever reason he or they want him to. They befriended the woman with the autistic child pretending to be me. It was easy for them to do since she posted her Kik ID on her profile. For the longest time I thought the supposed "suicide threats" the woman with the autistic child posted and claimed I made were false, but they are not. I found out it was someone pretending to be me. Whomever that was got me swatted. So the woman with the autistic child is technically not to blame. The person pretending to be me is. I'm not the only one they've done this to. They've pretended to be others they don't like just to get them fired from a job, evicted from a place, or frighten away their friends. One thing Disbarred Attorney and her bunch hate is when someone they know associates with someone they do not like. When this happens, often times the Disbarred Attorney will have one of her friends message that person or someone known to them asking alot of questions. If no answer is given, they get rather antsy. Especially Disbarred Attorney. She'll get a major attitude. She's done this to me, to my friends, and to countless others. One thing the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch do alot is they will take something said by someone they don't like and find a way to make it about them so as to give them a reason to retaliate in some manner. They tend to do this the most to those who ignore them and live their lives. They try to make it seem like that person is obsessed with them and lives and breathes them. The purpose is to discredit them. They've done this to me many times. All because I chose to walk away from them and not tolerate their abuse. This has been done to others whom have chosen to detach from associating with them. Sometimes to keep the hate going for their victims, the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch will approach someone, on an alternate social profiles, and show them something the victim said while trying to convince them it is about them. This is to get that person to attack their victim so they (Disbarred Attorney and friends) can sit back and watch as they play innocent. In simple terms, have someone do their dirty work for them. The Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have made profiles to cruelly mock others. This has been done to the woman with the autistic child and her child. It's been done to me. It's been done to many others. So many that I have lost count. This is so they can play innocent on their main profiles. The Disbarred Attorney, her male friend that is pushing 50, and their friend from the UK are the worst when it comes to backstabbing people. They will pretend to be someone's friend while trashing them behind their back. They've done it to me by referring to me as crazy and whacky. They've claimed I've said and did things I'd never say and do. They've done this regarding so many people. they've shared parts of conversations to make things look one way. They've even had images photoshopped, mostly by the male friend pushing 50. They've done this to my bullies and others. While my bullies are guilty of ALOT, the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have used that to make them look worse than they are. Another things this Disbarred Attorney does is when she is mad at someone, she has them doxed as a means of intimidate for whatever purpose. Sometimes it is to keep someone from speaking the truth. Sometimes it is to scare someone off social media because they are afraid of how they'll look for continuously going after them. They go harder after those who ignore them and don't respond to them. They've tried to scare me off. They've failed. The Disbarred Attorney, the woman from the UK, and their male friend pushing 50 are the worst when it comes to poking at their victims by making fun of things and people in their life. They make fun of this one woman and her sisters by making horrible and cruel jokes about weight and special needs. they will stalk her profile and poke fun at things she says to make it seem so totally different. She gets the worst of it and so does the woman with the autistic child. They both get it worse than I do. When the Disbarred Attorney wants to talk to someone and tells them they need to have a chat, she reacts very badly if they don't have that chat or they've the one to have the last word before blocking. She might have others she knows try to talk to the person or go on a tyrade about them by giving them some nickname and ranting in tweets. Sometimes they do this for others reasons. When she goes the tyrade route, always her friend from the UK and the male one pushing 50 participate in some way. They like to subtweet, make crude remark, and stalk . What they mostly do is say something obvious to the victim, but not so obvious to others so that if the victim responds, then hey can use it against them. ALOT of what the Disbarred Attorney told me about others, and told others about others, was a bit exaggerated. Sometimes stuff was "added" into the mix. Mostly to keep people apart and keep them from "talking". This was also done in hopes the person they were talking to would attack whom they are talking about. This way Disbarred Attorney and her bunch could play innocent. Often times they ranted to my now deceased boyfriend in hopes he would help dox and attack. He never did any of those things. All he did was help them report bullies. Rightfully so at the time. But I wonder, how many of those bullies acted the way they did because they were just bad people OR because they were reacting to what the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch had engineered. Coincidentally when Disbarred Attorney gets mad at someone for some reason, things tend to "happen". If someone makes her, her male friend pushing 50, the woman from the UK. or another close friend of theirs mad she (and they) doesn't react well. She and they find a way to attack that person in some form. It could be in a variety of ways.It could range from antagonizing subtweets to push the person to lashing out to finding ways to interfere in their life beyond online. They've done it to me countless times by making false claims, making crude remarks about my deceased boyfriend that dies 2 years ago. They try to be slick about it by mentioning just enough so those they've complained about me to know who they are talking about but wandering eyes don't and will be curious enough to ask. The people who have gotten the worst of this are the woman with the autistic child and this one woman whom they've made fun of and her sisters. The Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have been known to try and catfish their victims. ALOT of the times on Twitter and sometimes on dating sites. I highly suspect that at one point they've made dating profiles pretending to be me . A few times I have been approached by the most piggish people with claims I'm on some dating site and they were just speaking with me about hooking up. I walk away from people like that and don't give them any attention. Most of their catfishing is on Twitter. They might pretend to be some random person to befriend their victim and figure out a way to use whatever they said against them. I've lost count of how many others they've done this too beside me. Alot of the time the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch will excuse their actions by claiming they're "responding in kind" or defending themselves. Because of how they are and all they've done, I've often wondered if with each supposed defense, how much of it was them was intentionally antagonizing the person they supposedly defend themselves against into attacking them. All so they could play victim. Sometimes if the person doesn't bite/fight back, when they do this, they create/invent a reason to "attack back". They try to make it seem like justice and defense. All it is is them excusing their actions. While bullies will be bullies, it does not give them the right to attack back so viciously as they do much of the time. All they prove is they (Disbarred Attorney and her bunch) are the bigger bullies. One thing I have noticed heavily among the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch is they like to give some people the impression they are helping them in order to keep them in their fold and "drinking their koolaid". They might create a profile to mock someone or pretend to be someone in order to attack others. Then on their own profiles they speak out against that profile. They tell the ones affected they'll take care of it. After some times, the one in control of said profile will deactivate it. Voila... it looks like the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch have helped alot right? This is used to make it seem like they are helpful so as to make the person they supposedly helped, feel obligate to help them how they see fit. They also do this in order to look more powerful so when they harass and threaten, it holds more weight. Another thing I've noticed ALOT about the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch is they can't stand those they talk to being friends with those they don't like, liking tweets by those they don't like, retweeting tweets by those they don't like, and associating with those they don't like in some small way. This also goes for friends of those they have in their fold and friends of those they've cast out. If a friend of mine likes a tweet by someone they don't like, they get mad. They might have one of their own message someone known to the person who made the like or Retweet or someone known to a friend of that person. All this is nothing more than an attempt to silence the person. They're hoping the person that they message gets on that person's case and demands they "talk to their friend". This is also another way that they (Disbarred Attorney and her bunch) try to keep more control. they can't stand not being in control of something or someone they want to control. I am the exact opposite of them regarding that. If a friend of mine wants to be friends with someone theta doesn't like me or I don't like, I won't tell them not to or ask them not to. That wouldn't be right to do. People have a right to be friends with whomever they want. for example, I notice some of my friend have tweeted with the woman with the autistic child that use to bully me. That's fine. For those who want to walk away from the Disbarred Attorney and her bunch, things tend to happen to them. Crap is pulled to make them look bad. Their lives beyond the online world are messed with alongside their lives online. Jobs get called. False complaints get filed. Rumors get spread to earn the person more haters. They get stalked and harassed. I can't help but wonder which of my other bullies' actions were partly because of manipulate crap pulled by Disbarred Attorney and her bunch. I have wondered how much less bullying I would have went through if it wasn't for them stirring trouble by pretending to be me while pretending to be my friend. Causing trouble for others and acting like it was at my direction. Attacking others while acting in the way my other bullies have made me look so others would see the problem is me... when it wasn't. The Ones Not Mentioned As it has been noticed by now, I left out ALOT of bullies in this blog. The reason is because this blog is a follow up... an update. The bullies left out are one who have NOT CHANGED for the better or for the worse. That in no way means they don't still bother me. Just means their actions haven't changed. How I feel NOW When it comes to the bullies that have changed for the better, which is only 1, I hope she continues to improve. She has the potential of being a GREAT person. I think the largest part of how she became a certain way is manipulation and bullsh*t from Disbarred Attorney and her bunch. The Disbarred Attorney, the male friend pushing 50, and this woman from the UK are the worst of her bunch. They seem to think it is okay to hurt people. Food for thought They've pulled so much crap that I just stopped caring about what they think. While they may claim to have great lives, how great can they be when they are so horrible to so many just to lift themselves up? Also NO NAMED were mentioned here. Nothing personally identifying. If they see this blog and rant about it, they're only proving one thing. That being they're acknowledging they're the ones that are guilty of a multitude of harassment games and more as described here.
I have autism and have been getting bullied by the same people, their friends, and close associates for the past few years. I had spoken about my bullying experience in a Periscope video. I took it off of Periscope because someone thought it was funny to enter there with a name similar to someone else in an attempt to blacken their name. Apparently me blocking the fake account doesn't erase the chat for others. Because the person being mocked is recently deceased, I removed it and moved it to You Tube, making it private, out of respect. Also putting it in a blog is alot better and it's easier for someone hearing about my experience to pick up there they left off. This is no way means I haven't moved on. This just means I am changing the spot where my bullying experience is told. NO NAMES OR PERSONALLY IDENTIFYING INFORMATION WILL BE MENTIONED. My online bullying started with one single incident in late 2014. Someone sent me a tweet asking if I would donate to his Go Fund Me. I didn't respond to it. The next day I got a nasty tweet from the same person as a response to a tweet I posted about a nice time out at the movies and dinner. He raged that if I can afford that, I can afford to atleast donate $5. I blocked him. Some of his friends began to troll me. I blocked them too. I never responded to them. Ever since he started in on me, he occasionally brings me up in some angry rant. He's made false claims that I'm "stealing his work" whenever I have posted a tweet with a news article about the Flint Water Crisis. sometimes he will go awhile without bothering me and just bring me up randomly. As of the time of this blog, he hasn't bothered me in about 2 months. Eventually a friend of that individual, that started it all against me, began writing very slanderous, cruel, and crude blogs about me with the wildest claims. It was claimed I stalk and harass people and their children. It's been claimed I am my friends and they are my "sock accounts". Not once did I respond to any of this, but he made darn sure to make it seem like I did by photoshopping things to make it look like I said and did things I never did. Another individual, who's proclaimed himself to be into digital forensics began harassing me here and there since I encountered him. He's tried to send me messages on Gab.ai (aka Gab.com), since I joined, in an attempt to get me to talk to him. He's tried to lead me to believe I will be in some huge trouble if I don't. He's chosen to believe lies, falsehoods, and photoshopped images making me look bad. He's even helped with alot of that bs. Another person then got involved. A rather vile twisted individual that had a habit of falsely labeling people as bullies while posting their personal information on his site, couple with photoshopped images to make it look like I said and did things I would never do. Luckily now his website is gone. A few people that were either the above mentioned, or those close to them, had taken it upon themselves to create blogs in my name and post my personal information, pictures of me, and images that had been photoshopped to make it look like I said and did things I would never do. One person that joined in on all this was this woman who has an autistic kid. This was in early 2015. Someone told her I said things about her kid. She's taken it upon herself to frequently join in on making fun of me...fat shaming me, claiming I said and did things I'd never do. She took any chance to got to spread rumors and falsehoods about me to get others to hate me. Despite her demands that I "had better talk things out in DM". I never did. But it never stopped her from trying to make it seem like I responded to her by either just claiming I did or making accounts to bother herself while claiming its me or by having her friends troll her while claiming it is me. She's taken it upon herself to say the most horrendous things. When my then boyfriend Shawn was alive, she made fun of him when he had to have his left arm amputated. She also thought it was cool to accuse me of being all my friends. She's made wild claims that I have many twitter accounts. Once she's claimed 1,000, then 9,000, and some odd numbers all over the place. She once called into this one person's BlogTalkRadio show while extremely drunk just to rant about me. She's even had me swatted once claiming I threatened to kill myself. Joke was on her when I showed the police at my door what she was in a fuss over. It was a quote from a movie. This woman has gotten other people to come after me based on lies she's concocted. On numerous occasions she's created little videos to post on Twitter while mocking me. She's lied about me claiming I've sent her sexual messages about her minor daughter. She's done the same to others and has made the same claims. It has me wondering if she is either making accounts to send to herself or having others do that just so she can get people attacked that she just doesn't like. Either way, it's very twisted and disturbed behavior from a cruel bully. One would think since she claims to have an autistic child that she wouldn't bully others with it and make fun of others, but then again, her very behavior just isn't right. About early 2015 I befriended this group of older ladies. They and some of their close male friends seemed nice. They were trolled by some of the same people I got trolled and bullied by. Even thought I was trolled worse just for knowing them, I stood by them because I don't believe in abandoning people because of the actions of others. But it wasn't until early 2018 that things began to change for the worse. Around mid-2015 I came upon this woman whom claimed to be writing a book about bullies. She heavily bragged that her publisher loves her and she is almost done with a second, but yet she never published a first. She's approached me multiple times claiming to want to interview me. She's gotten angry when I ignored her. She's claimed that profiles that weren't even me were me just to make me look bad. She and the woman with the autistic kid did this to me alot. They both even swatted me once claiming I was threatening to kill myself. They did this over a movie quote I posted. Both of them even went as far as someone message them to act suicidal just so they can claim it is me as a means to make me appear unstable. Many times this woman made "book threats" to put people in her book as bullies. The people she claimed were bullies she was putting in her book were actually her victims. She's threatened me in Twitter DM claiming I better keep my mouth shut (about my bullying) or she would be telling other I am my friends and I have multiple personalities. This one bully that had a website with my personal info...she was good friends with him and often posted links to material with my personal info and photoshopped BS. Yet she has acted as if she is some savior. She's lied and claim I use bots and much more. This one other bully, not sure how to describe him except to say he is in his early 60s. He's trolled me by crudely calling me 5head and other cruel names. He's had close to 100 Twitter accounts suspended since 2015 (early) when I came across him. Now and then he still makes crude comments about me. He's just like this one kid in 2015 that started bullying me. That kid was 17 as of early 2015. That kid kept telling me to kill myself. He called me fat and ugly. He tried to get others after me. He kept baiting me to rage back so he and his buddies could make it seem like I attack kids. I didn't take the bait. Every now and then he resurfaces to inflict more abuse upon me. In early 2016 these 2 "Twitter Anons" befriended me. In late 2017 I began to figure out they weren't wanting to be my friend. Apparently I was some joke to them and they were using me just to make fun of me. Apparently they were friends with the man that started the bullying against me. They've accused me of stalking and doxxing kids. They've gone on tirades on Gab.ai claiming I stalk and dox people and their kids. They began to follow and be friendly with the woman with the autistic kid and tried to encourage her to go after me more. There was a period of time on Gab.ai that everyday for a few months they kept sending me messages accusing me of things I never did or said. they've threatened and harassed me. They've demanded I deactivate all social media and disappear. I never gave in. I never responded. As of right now, they only bring me up now and then. They'll go through periods of time where they rant about me on Gab and Twitter obsessively in their own little code and then they will be quiet. They'll sometimes refer to me as a set of initials or some cruel nickname. Apparently me not divulging every personal detail of my life makes me a "lying no-honor rat" to them. I've lost track of all the false claims they made about me and spread around. One of those claims is trying to say I'm a pedophile and trying to get others to go along with that false claim in order to get more people involved in harassing me. I'm not the only one they've done this to. Shortly after I met the 2 fake anons this man who ran a Twitter page for a big website he has had decided to DM my boyfriend Shawn, whom is now deceased (heart failure). This was around mid-2016. He falsely accused him of being me and in doing so accused me of trolling and said I had "d**n well better watch my f**king step". This man has harassed multiple people accusing them of horrendous things, not just me. Alot of them are minor things he made to look alot worse. He's gone after others relentlessly. When he's gone after others, he has made posts on his big website and handed out links with his own version of the story, which is often very out there and paints it how he wants others to see it. Other bullies of mine have tried to get him to go after me. That's when he sent that DM on Twitter to my boyfriend Shawn. He sent him (Shawn) some photoshopped image to make it look like I did and said things I'd never do and continued his "This is you Miley" act. In his mind he was trying to harass and intimidate me. I've never trolled him. Yet he harassed and threatened my boyfriend Shawn as if he thought it was me. This man is very vile. I once thought this man was a great man for "going after bullies", but he is nothing more than a bully himself that goes after people for stupid reasons, disagreements, and those who know (or talk to) people he just doesn't like. The woman with the autistic child has even managed to get this one political figure from Kansas and his friends to join in on the bullying of me. Every so often he and his buddies make crude comments about me, troll my Twitter timeline, take things from it, and look for reasons to make fun of and bully me. In early April of 2018, the group of older ladies and some of their male friends, began to turn against me. It started with the one that has lupus and fibromyalgia. She grew impatient with me in DMs and would get very upset if I didn't respond within a certain time. Much of the time we talked, which wasn't much when we did, she was trying to make me feel bad for something. On the day of Wrestlemania, I decided I had enough. I blocked her and stopped talking. She made subtle pokes at me in her tweets. About mid-April the rest of them pretty much turned against me. It started with the one from the UK. She used a phrase that bothered me. I politely told her and left it at that. I wasn't rude about it. But she chose to get angry and bent out of shape in a group DM (on Twitter) claiming she always walks on eggshells around me. She even said "Tired of my feelings never mattering among any of you because I'm not autistic.". 2 of her friends left the group DM. In case I offended them, I apologized to them and only brought up what was already said infront of their friend in group DM. I tried explain to both in voice videos (camera pointed at blank surface as I spoke) that I wasn't getting on their friend's case but was simply mentioning a phrase bothered me. I wasn't telling her what to and not to say. Not too long after that I received some rather enraged DMs from their friend accusing me of stabbing her in the back, going behind her back, and other awful things as I tried to explain to her I only brought up what was said infront of her and I thought I upset her friends and I was apologizing to them in case I did. When she kept berating and belittling me, it was quite obvious that she wasn't going to let up. Part of me thought she would calm down in a few days. She didn't. She then started to subtweet me along with her friend whom has lupus and fibromyalgia. That's when I decided to block the one from the UK. Not too long after she and some of her close friends began to attack me and accuse me of a wide variety of things. They even went as far as making cruel and snide comments about me and even twisting anything I said to make it seem like it was about them in order to justify their abuse. Of that group (the older ladies and some of their male friends), the ones that didn't berate me chose to click "like" on alot of cruel things said about me. As of this very moment, they still bring me up here and there and accuse me saying and doing things I'd never do. The woman with lupus and fibromyalgia still subtweets me now and then. She occasional looks for reasons to tweet about what I do. She's acted like I copy her just because I occasionally use the Bitmoji app. Each of these people have done this before to others. Some people have chosen to approach this woman I knew that was almost always very upbeat and positive. They made it look like I said and did things I would never do. She sent me an upset DM on Twitter and just stopped talking to me. That which I do not hold against her, but rather those whom have lied and manipulated her. I would have tried to talk to her, but I decided to wait on that in hopes one day she would see those people that pulled that bs, as the problem. Plus I wanted to give her space and didn't want to do to her what those people did... which was bombard her with stuff and push. Sadly that moment will never come because she recently passed away. Since she has, alot of those she knows have given condolences. The woman with the autistic kid is currently trying to say and start a rumor I am saying I am glad she is dead. That is quite an awful thing to do... use someone's death as an opportunity to get attacked. As of right now, no proof has been shown. When a bully makes a big bold claim, but shows no proof or delays in showing it, it is because it doesn't exist and they're looking to create it. If the "proof" already exists, but isn't shown, likely the bully is guilty of creating a site or profile to use later to make their intended victim look bad. The woman whom has the autistic kid is currently, as of the moment of this blog is heavily stalking and harassing me. She's changed her profile around to mock me with a distorted picture of me as the profile picture. The username has a portion of my name in it and she frequently makes very cruel remarks about me. She still accuses me of things I'd never say or do. She's accused me of making racist remarks about her kid. The woman with lupus and fibromyalgia is even participating in this abuse by "fueling the fire". The 2 "Twitter Anons", I spoke of earlier are ranting about me again claiming I created an account on Gab to harass the woman with lupus and fibromyalgia. The woman with the autistic kid is claiming I've created accounts with someone else's name just to say I am glad someone known to alot is dead. She and one of the close friends of that woman from the UK are starting this vicious rumor. This is nothing more that a vile tactic to get alot of people after me so they can sit back, relax, and chill for awhile. Even if they do, considering the habits of the one with the autistic kid, she will look for, invent, and find a reason to bring me up and blame me for something. She often does that in hopes of catching the attention of others whom have hated on me and wants them to hang on her word as if she were God. She trolls my Twitter page ALOT and often looks for things she can twist and make fun of me for. Coincidentally the woman with the autistic kid and the group of older ladies with some male friends have become friends right as this woman began viciously targeting me again as she has been lately. The woman with the autistic kid has made demands that I call her or else she won't stop. News flash... I don't give in to demands by bullies. I don't speak with or talk to bullies. Generally speaking, if someone turns against me, once they make it obvious they are a bully, I stop talking to them. What this woman wants is to be THE ONE to get me to respond. Being the one to "finally" get me to respond would make her quite popular among the other bullies. Each of those I have mentioned, even those whom have turned against me, have worked way too hard to blacken my name with lies, rumors, photoshopped images, and twisting the smallest things to make them look ugly. To them, doing this brings them pleasure and a sense of accomplishment. All their behavior proves is they have meaningless lives for stalking and bullying another to make them happy. anyone who looks at my Twitter profile sees I am a nice and decent person. Hence why the bullies will falsely claim I have multiple profiles and will often create profiles to harass each other, point fingers, then claim it is me in order to appear right. ALL of these bullies who put so much energy into harassing me, if they put it towards their own lives, then they wouldn't be so miserable that they felt the need to bully me to lift themselves up.
While portions of this blog will be similar to my blog regarding bullying tactics, it will be quite different. I will delve into various types of actions and behaviors that bullies engage and participate in. Not everyone who participates in the actions below is a bully, but all bullies participate in many to all of them. The false claims of "harassing, doxxing, stalking kids" and/or being a pedo. When a bully resorts to false claims of someone being: into child porn (sending/receiving), a pedophile, stalking kids, harassing kids, and/or doxing kids... it is a sign of pure desperation. This type of desperation is often extreme, given the severity of the false claims. The Primary purpose of such is to gain the attention of their intended victim for some agenda and to cause them harm: emotionally and mentally. Sometimes physically if they come upon someone willing to go that far. 1. Scare the person into feeling like talking to them is their best option. 2. Scare the person into telling them what they want to hear. 3. Scare the person into not posting as much on social media or about certain subjects. 4. Scare the person off social media altogether. 5. Incite others to begin attacking the individual, so they can slowly taper off, and play innocent. 6. To give the person a bad reputation that will likely be unrepairable due to the fact they and others they got to help, are further spreading the lies and rumors. 7. To get someone alot of haters QUICKLY. Hence why it's often used as a last resort tactic. 8. To cost their victim their friends. 9. To cost the victim their job. 10. Typically used when many other methods of gaining a victim's attention and/or getting them to comply to demands (of some sort)...HAVE FAILED. False claims of animal abuse. This is done for pretty much the same reason as the above, but with a few added twists. 1. Scare the person into feeling like talking to them is their best option. 2. Scare the person into telling them what they want to hear. 3. Scare the person into not posting as much about their pet (in pic form). Used as a method of control and to exert control over the person. The less pics posted, the less their is to make their claims look invalid. 4. Incite others to begin attacking the individual, so they can slowly taper off, and play innocent. 5. Hopes to rally people to report the individual. This works well with #3, but only if the person begins to post less and less of their happy beloved pet. False claims of obsession. (PEOPLE) Often done for the bully to look more like the victim and their victim to look like the aggressor by discrediting them, appear more desired, and gain more of a following. This done via a multitude of methods. 1. Accusing random people of being their intended victim. All while putting on a show acting as if it were true. 2. Creating accounts. Sends horrific messages to themselves. Goes on their account to point the finger at their intended victim. 3. Tries to make it look like posts made by their victim are about them. Will likely rant heavily (or close) to help the rant gain more traction. 4. Brings up the past, twists it, and tries to make it seem like it is "history of an obsession". False claims of obsession & addiction. (Things/Activities) This is often done to make the victim appear obsessed and/or addicted to a particular thing, activity or hobby. The purpose of this is to make the victim feel bad and/or destroy interest in what they like. Also used as a means to discredit them and make them appear unstable. 1. Looks for and seeks out any articles or blogs they can find in which people have written about obsession & addiction regarding that particular interest. If the victim likes drawing, then the bully might seek out articles about obsessions with drawing. They then posts several articles of that subject in a row hoping the victim is watch and will lash out...therefore giving the bully an excuse to play the part of the victim. 2. They try to come up with ways to make it seem like that particular interest or hobby is currently doing the victim harm. 3. The bully will do and say things to make their victim feel so bad about their interests that they slowly lose interest or taper off by alot. This is done to make the victim more vulnerable. Photoshopping of images This is done for a variety of reasons in order to accomplish many things. None of which are good. 1. A means to discredit the victim to their friends, family, and the public eye. 2. Sometimes timed. If the bully wants the victim to cute down on talking about certain subjects, they'll post photoshopped images around the time the victim talks about those subjects and/or photoshopped images concerning that subject that are somehow aimed at the victim. 3. Posting of the faked images in groups and social circles that the victim frequents. This is in hopes that people involved with the victim's interests will talk to them shun them and possibly get others to do so. This is an isolation tactic meant to isolate them and make their interests less enjoyable. 4. To turn people against each other. Sometimes use to divide friends away from the intended victim by making it look like they said and did things they'd never do, that the person whom would see the images thinks is terrible or worse. 5. Will send a screenshot taken with a cellphone to a friend (or themselves). Then photoshop the image. Send back to phone. All so the bully can proclaim "I took it with my phone. How can it be photoshopped." and or "You can't photoshop images to that extent with a phone!". Suicide encouragement, justification, and cover up A bully will often encourage the victim to commit suicide. They will try to justify it and cover it up in a multitude of ways. 1. The bully will specifically target those going through tough times that are either "verified" accounts (Gab and Twitter) or celebrities that have been open about mental illness. They will act like they are there to help. They will put on a good act. 2. They will seek out those who have either tried to commit suicide or know someone that did. Then the bully will act overly sympathetic to the person to gain their favor and make themselves appear to be such a good person. this way if it comes out that the bully encouraged suicide, it's less likely to be believed. 3. Sometimes the bully will claim the victim is suicidal, but at the same time be bullying them and coming up with a multitude of ways to make it seem justified. This makes it obvious who the bully is and that the claims of the victim being suicidal are either false. If the victim is suicidal, this only makes the bully look that much worse. 4. When the truth comes out about the bully's suicide encouragement to one or more of their victims, The bully might often resort to diverting attention away by claiming the victim is suicidal; photoshopped images could be shown to make the claim appear valid. Bits and pieces of what they've said previously could be shown along with a few words from the bully that will try to make it appear their victim is suicidal. Pick & Choose what to show. Often times the bully will justify their actions by means of showing screenshots and other things to justify their actions. Much of the time they "pick and choose" what to show to paint the picture they want seen. 1. One of the biggest things a bully will "pick & choose" on is they only show what the other person has said; rarely what they (the bully) have said. At that, it will be portions, that the bully pics and chooses that will make them look the best and the victim look worse. 2. Portions of things will often be saved and archived to paint the picture the bully chooses to paint. Whatever will suit them best. Part of a private message might be saved. The bully might show only one message in a conversation or bits and pieces while leaving alot out. Cycling through victims When bullies have multiple victims, they will often "cycling through them. They'll bother one person for a bit and then move on to 1. To avoid looking obsessed about any particular person. 2. To appear more powerful by having their friends, along with them, gang up on the victim while trying to make it look legitimate. 3. To lower their victims into a false sense of security by leaving them alone just long enough and then pouncing on them again. Compile and post. One thing a bully will do is "compile and post". What this means is they will take the worst posts (or a select few) about their victim, compile it together for whatever purpose they choose. 1. A one-stop shop to view material about intended victim. Makes it easy for it to share and get around for maximum impact. 2. The bullies know onlookers hate having to scrounge around for info. Being it is in a neat nifty little package (all in one spot), the bullies think onlookers will be more appreciative of the effort to compile everything so they don't have to hunt around. They (the bullies) then take advantage of this and will put it "out there" that if anyone wants more info beyond what they see, to come to them to provide. This is to entice the onlookers to looking at what they posted and compiled and come to them for more. Slanderous sites, blogs, and videos When a bully creates blogs, sites, or videos with slanderous material about the victim, it is for one of many reasons and will often contain bits and piece of convos they will put together how they want to give the impression they want others likely to be combined with photoshopped material to portray the victim how they want others to view them. 1. They want it to have a lasting impact. 2. They want something that will appear in search results for the many search engines out there. This way if anyone researches the victim, they are made to look bad. Trashing in hashtags, groups and posts The purpose of this is to spread the hate, lies, and rumors about the victim far and wide. This is done a few ways and serves several purposes. 1. In hopes others will see their plights and help spreads the bs on their on. Means less work for the bully so they can look as "innocent" as possible. 2. To instigate. The bully hopes the victim and/or their friends will see the bs and respond or lash out. This is so the bully can have real material to use and make it appear as if the victim started it and/or make it seem like friends of the victim are the victim. Contacting jobs Some bullies will contact a person's place of employment with false complaints as if they were a patron there or acting as if they are a "concerned person" and try to stir trouble for them any way they can while attempting to seem legitimate. 1. Most of the times contact the victim's employment when they are SURE that the victim was working that day. 2. Alot of the times the bully will try to work around not giving any personal contact info if asked for a follow up. 3. Sometimes the bully will have info prepared to give, if the needs calls for it, like a burner number and email address they created for the occasion. 4. The story given, as for the reason for contact, will often be something that is hard to prove or something that makes it seem like some things mean things they don't. 5. Often times the bully will rant in an upset (hurt and/or insulted) mann or very angry tone in hopes they will be believed for the simple fact that they wouldn't be so upset or so angry over nothing. Contacting Places Sometime the bully will contact a place they know their victim will be for the purpose of creating trouble for them. This tends to be done when the bully has a hard time getting to the victim in other ways. 1. File a complain with that place of business as if they were there and claiming the victim caused them such a disturbance. When this is utilized, the bully will have some of their friends do the same thing, so it looks more legit because "if the person wasn't a problem, why are their several complaints?". 2. Call giving the place a warning about the person, claiming they're trouble, and offering what they call proof. Likely that which is a link to a site, blog, or video they created to make the victim look bad. Sometimes the bully will tell the one they are speaking to to speak to this or that person. Sometimes tell them to Google the person. this is done if slanderous sites, blogs, and videos were created to make the victim look bad. Befriending their friends The bully might try to befriend the friends of their victim for a variety of reasons and in a variety of ways. 1. The bully's main goal being to cause a divide between the victim and their friends and followers. 2. The bully's main goal being to make the victim look like they are the one with problem by befriending a bunch of friends and followers at once hoping to scare the victim so they will message all their friends complaining about them (the bully). So this way the victim looks like some nit picker while the bully looks innocent saying and doing nothing. 3. The bully's main goal being to isolate the victim by slowly approaching their friends with claims they will do their best to make legit. This is so slowly one by one the victims friends will slowly disassociate with the victim. Attacking friends The bully will often attack friends and followers of their victims. A bit of purposes for this. 1. To isolate the victim from their friends by leading the friends to believe it will stop if they disassociate from their friend (the bully's victim). 2. To turn the victim's friends against them with lots of attacks. The bully hopes that the friends of the victim will think there is some merit to what the bully is saying due to the fact that the bully won't let up and think "Wow it must be true since they are so stuck on it". 3. Get the friend of the victim to believe that the victim has been bad mouthing them or doing things behind their back they'd be disgusted with. This is to drive a wedge in the friendship. Faking financial need Sometimes a bully will pretend to be in financial need for several reasons. 1. To garner pity attention so that if they look less menacing and more "sad". This way if their bullying comes to light, it is less likely to be believed because "how can someone in such need be so awful?" 2. To divert attention away from their bullying and bad behavior. 3. If their bullying gets known, they can claim the other person is lying and trying to "kick them when they're down". 4. Claim the stress from their financial need was a contributing factor in them acting out. This would be if the bully wants to try and excuse what they did and sugar coat it. This is in no way saying those in financial need are faking it. This is merely stating why and for what reasons a bully would fake financial need. Posing as part of Anonymous This is to intimidate others for a multitude of reasons and purposes. 1. To scare others into doing what they want them to do. 2. To intimidate people into talking to them. 3. Intimidate others into telling them what they want to hear so they can use it later for some purpose. 4. To make themselves appear and seem more powerful so as to be more effective in intimidating others. 5. To gain a following, popularity, and fame so they are more effective in spreading hate, lies, rumors, and doing anything to bully and intimidate.. 6. Will misuse those who believe their lie of being a real anon into helping to spread their bs and possibly attack others. Also makes them appear more powerful. Convince of legal trouble Will try convincing the victim or others that know the victim, that the victim could be in legal trouble. 1. Sends the victim messages and tries to convince them they're going to be in legal trouble. This is to intimidate the victim into talking to the bully. 2. Makes posts and does whatever they can, from lying to posting photoshopped images, to convince those around them that their victim is in legal trouble or could be. Meant to scare the victim into either talking to them for some bogus resolution or leaving social media. 3. To discredit the victim and make it less likely for people to listen to them, drive people away, and get them to isolate themselves. Claims of email authentication for Twitter DMs Quite often when faked/photoshopped Twitter DMs are posted, the bully will claim they are authenticated via email to make them appear more real. 1. To make the Twitter DM seem real they will be either repeatedly say they're authenticated via email or say it once very sternly or angrily in a "you better believe me" tone in their words. 2. If trying to show an "authenticated DM" via email method, they will photoshop this authentication email. First they do so by having someone send them what they want to be seen or they will do so from a sock account. Then check their email, screenshot that DM, and then paste that part over what was said from the person they're trying to fake a DM against. Voila fake DM email authenticate, or so it seems. 3. To go further to make the supposed "email authenticated DM" appear real, they will go on and on and whine about email headers claiming they can't be faked. This is in hopes lurking eyes will believe they're real. 4. If the email headers for the supposed "email authenticated DM" are posted, some will assume "omg it is real"... because they are. Think of what was said in number 2 above. The headers from both emails would be the same because from Twitter. So because of that alone and constant whining that the DM can't be fake because the exact contents of the DM appear in the notification email...the bully hopes that people will think the DM can't possibly be faked. 5. Some bullies will get SLOPPY and fake an "email authenticated DM" via photoshop entirely. When this is done, they will often fake the email headers in case authenticity comes into question. Take email headers from an email from Twitter and paste them into a screenshot of email headers for the "email authenticated DM" that they want people to see. Follow/befriend Social media accounts stirring the pot The bully will often follow social media accounts that are stirring trouble with others. 1. They will act sympathetic to their cause. Just enough to gain some trust and a follow. Doing this with multiple people and they gain a following of "greatful" people whom they (the bully) will think won't mind helping them out when they target others. 2. Console the person doing the attacks in tweets or via DM. Basically kissing their butts telling them how wrong the other is and how right they are. This is to gain a little trust and possibly another person that will feel "greatful" enough to pay attention to their bs, help spread it, and maybe even target those they (the bully) doesn't like. Digging into the life of another ALOT of the times a bully will dig DEEP into the lives of their victims. Many reasons and many purposes with many agendas on their mind. 1. To find something they (the bully) can use against the victim to get them enemies, hate, and even get them targeted about others. 2. Butthurt over being ignored and wanting to get the victim's attention. 3. To scare the victim into talking to them to make some kind of deal that the bully will trick the victim into thinking it is their "only way". BIG MISTAKE! Anything said, the bully will hold to use against the victim later. The bully will likely cut up the convo, show bits and pieces later, twist the truth, and use to hurt the victim with whatever terrible picture they painted. 4. Scare the victim into leaving social media. The likely reason is because the bully sees the victim as being a threat. Especially if the victim doesn't interact with them and the bully hates looking bad for bothering them. 5. Pass on to others alongside a few twisted things, lies, and rumors, in hopes that that person will cause them some trouble so the bully can play innocent and be relieve of some responsibility (in their mind). 6. So they can put it out there in a variety of ways so ever if the bully quits or gets in trouble, the info is out there for another troll/bully to use should they choose. Situational harassment Sometimes a bully might harass someone for talking about a particular issue for a number of reasons and react in a number of ways. 1. The victim is getting more attention when speaking about an issue than the bully is. 2. The bully might get jealous and harass the victim by defaming or slandering them to others publicly and privately. That will likely be to others speaking about the same issue. 3. So fewer will listen to the victim and the bully has more of a chance to get more attention. 4. Main goal is for the bully to get the victim to stay away from the issue. Less competition. Sub-posting One thing almost every bully will do at point is subpost. This is posting about someone without naming them. There's many purposes and reasons for this. 1. To poke at the victim and make fun of them in a way that's likely obvious to them and not as likely to others. If somewhat obvious to others, the bully can claim it's about someone else. If very obvious, they'll try to excuse it. On way is mentioning that they don't mention names. 2. To hopefully anger and upset the intended victim enough so they act in a manner that the bully can use against them at that time or later, should they choose. 3. Things might be worded in such a way so that multiple victims of the bully will think it is about them. 4. To catch the attention of other bullies about a mutual victim in hopes to incur their ire so they (the onlooking other bully) will go after the victim they are subposting about. Follow around in games Sometimes to get to the victim, make them feel trapped, and/or just to bug them... a bully will follow them around to games they play. 1. The bully will start playing some of the games that the victims plays. Try to make friends in that particular gaming community. When the time is right, they use those new found friends to help target their victim and/or make things difficult for them in the game and on social mediums they (the victim) is on. 2. Play a game on the same server as the victim. Troll them. Message random people about them. It could be anything from saying they should avoid them to encouraging them to look at any material about them. Specifically material piece together just right to make the victim look bad. 3. Play on the victim's servers and try to get into the same guild and/or make friends with the same people. Gain trust. When timing is right, take advantage of that trust by acting as if they are a concerned individual about the victim. They then share what they "just happened to come across" which would be any slanderous put together against them. 4. Same as #3 above but the bully will do and say little things to put the victim in a not so pleasant light. Then eventually share what they "just happened to come across" which would be any slanderous put together against them. Self attacks Sometimes the bully will engage in what I would call "self attacks" via one of the ways below. 1. Create social media accounts and send themselves crude remarks so they can play the part of the victim while accusing their victim of being the attacker. This tends to happen most when thebully starts to look bad for their attacks upon them. The goal of this is to make their (the bully's) attacks look and appear justified. 2. Create a buzz of victimhood for the bully. Make them appear more vulnerable like they are the victim and the victim is the bully. Might even resort to lying to their own friends and fool them in to backing them (the bully) up so the facade looks even more real. 3. Complain about the victim excessively to others with false claims in hopes they will believe it thinking "if it wasn't true, why would he/she be so stuck on it and so angry so long". 4. Leave obviously fake bad reviews for themselves. This is to make themselves appear more like a victim. The more of a victim that the bully appears to be, the more believable they seem when they point the finger at whom they intend to make it seem like is bothering them. Often times this is something they've been bullying and/or are jealous of. Accusing randoms of being a particular A bully will often accuse random people, and sometimes random bot accounts, on social media of being their victim. 1. To arouse curiosity about the victim in hopes people will ask questions and/or talk about them. Perfect time for the bully, or someone they choose, to somehow steer those people in the right direction to slanderous material about the victim. 2. The bully hopes people will see them as someone so traumatized by the victim and begin to wonder "What did this person do to them" and pity them (the bully). People who fall for that are easy prey to whatever lies the bully has to tell and anyone who backs it up. One sided conversations Often times a bully will engage in one sided conversations. Basically responding to posts made by the victim to make it seem like a conversation has or is taking place. This is done in several ways for several purposes. 1. To make it appear as if the victim said something, but deleted it. 2. To unnerve the victim in hopes of either scaring them into either not posting as much, getting off that social medium, or off social media altogether. 3. To unnerve the victim to the point they lash out. 4. To unnerve the victim to the point they say or do something that the bully can use to discredit them. 5. To lead their friends and onlookers into believing the victim stirred trouble, got rid of the evidence (deleted posts), in hopes that they will join in on causing trouble for the victim. Twist the past. Fake the past. Another vile way for a bully to affect the victim is to give them a fake past or twist it. 1. Make it seem like something in the victim's past happened for different reasons. 2. False claims made in which if the victim tries to prove it false, it gives the bully more material to twist and use. 3. To create a bad look and vibe about the victim. Delays in showing proof A bully will delay in showing proof, they claim to have, for many reasons. 1. They don't have any. 2. To create a buzz and hype. 3. They want to buy time to have "proof" manufactured. 4. To scare the victim into thinking they have something, so they will do as the bully wants, which could range from telling them what they want to hear to disappearing from social media. Projection of faults A bully will often project their faults on to the victim. This is a vile tactic to further slander and defame the victim in a few ways for several purposes. The main one being accusing the victim of what they, themselves, are guilty of. 1. To divert attention away from themselves (the bully). 2. A way to get more attention on the victim for a particular fault so as to garner them more attention to decrease the liklihood of attention falling upon the bully for it. 3. To help alleviate the guilt. More guilt alleviated, the better it is for the bully. Less slip ups in their quest to further slander, abuse, and harass the victim. "Law enforcement needs to be involved" Alot of the times, a bully with blather on and on about how "law enforcement should be involved" in regards to the victim and in their false claims against the victim. 1. Scare the victim into to coming to them to "talk" and "work on a resolution". NEVER DO THIS!!! Bad idea. The bully is hoping to have more to twist to make their false claims appear legit. 2. Scare the victim into admitting to something they never did in order for some hope of a few moments of relief. VERY BAD IDEA. the bully will just use this against the victim later to further discredit them. 3. Scare the victim off social media. 4. Scare the victim into doing things they want them to do. Taking pics from victim's social media The bully will takes pics from the victim's social media for some purpose or another. 1. To create cruel memes. 2. To pass around and solicit others about the victim. Entice them to bother the victim. 3. To use for impersonation accounts. 4. To pass around to others for the purpose of making fun of the victim. 5. To intimidate the victim by making them feel hunted. 6. Will take an innocent picture from the victim's social media like of their pet, or something in their life, and make a nasty comment. That comment being unrelated to the victim. This shows obsession on part of the bully/stalker in their need to constantly find reasons to poke. Soliciting on behalf of the victim Approaches others and solicits them on behalf of the victim in many ways for many purposes. 1. Openly posts a picture of their victim with one or more people tagged along with a few wisecracks. Purpose is to get people to join in on making fun of the victim. Often done to reinforce the false belief that no one likes or listens to the victim. 2. To get the victim unwanted sexual attention such as messages of a sexual nature. "No ones likes/listens to..." Claims, by the bully, that "no ones" likes or listens to the victim. 1. Will go on and on to others, in a public setting, about how no one listens to the victim or likes them. Nothing more than an attempt to make them look bad. 2. Tries to do whatever they can to validate false claims that "no one listens to or likes" the victim. 3. Will have others back up the claims and anything created to support it. Excuses to bring up the victim For one reason or another, often times the bully will find a reason, or way, to bring up the victim and try to make it not look like an obsession. 1. Try to make it seem like something the victim was accused of in the past is something they are guilty of now. 2. Scour their social media posts for something they can make it seem is about them. Point it out. 3. Photoshop some images to make it seem like the victim is talking about them. Impersonation To further cause the victim anguish, a bully might impersonate them. 1. Create social media accounts pretending to be the victim and lash out at others. Later go on their real profile and point fingers or have others do it then they point fingers. 2. Create a social media profile and flirt excessively with people and steer them to the victim's actually social media on other social mediums. 3. To cause trouble for the person the bully is pretending to be in order to scare them into giving them what they want or disappear from social media. Back up lies One thing a vast majority of bullies will do is have people back up their lies and back up lies in return. 1. Will have several of their friends back up by convincing them it's the truth or getting them willing to go along with the lie knowing it is a lie. 2. Will photoshop a few things to back up the lies. 3. Will take bits and pieces of conversation that they think will back up the lies. Name calling (obvious) Bullies will often resort to name calling to start and here and there for a number of reasons. 1. Used to get a rise out of the victim. 2. The bully will call the victim names and try to pass it off as "just playing around" for the sole purpose of making the victim look bad should they say anything. 3. To get the victim to feel bad about themselves. 4. To put on a show for friends and/or other fellow bullies. Looks fun to the bullies, but degrading to the victim. Name calling (specialized) Sometimes the bully will call their victim a name that is innocent to others, but they know will hurt their victim or a particular name over and over again to give it a negative meaning. 1. The bully will call the victim a name that is sometimes used to describe something about someone that seems harmless. But they will do so over and over and in such a way so as to make the victim feel bad about it. 2. Call someone a seemingly harmless name over an over again with the intent to annoy and/or traumatize to the point that name they're being called becomes hurtful. 3. Calling someone a specific name to a condition they have that seems harmless, but do it in such a way that it causes them emotional distress or makes it obvious their hurtful intent. Follow in social sites Alot of bullies will follow their victim around in a particular social site. 1. The bully will make a point to try and join in discussions the victim is involved in in order to make them (the victim) feel uneasy they're around. 2. Will join in on discussion the victim is involved info the sole purpose of trying to make them look bad in some way by any means. 3. Will click like on posts the victim makes not because they actually like the posts, but because they want to get the victim's attention in hopes to unnerve them and possible to get the victim to lash out. Follow around social sites Often times a bully will follow their victim around to multiple social sites. 1. Sign up for a social media page where the victim is just to be there to unnerve them. In this case the bully has something on their page to make it obvious it's them. Just enough to unnerve the victim, but not make it seem obvious to others. 2. Create multiple profiles on each site the victim is on.Actively use whatever profile on whatever site the victim is currently active on. Contacting friends and family One thing alot of bullies are resorting to is contacting and threatening to contact friends and family members of their victims for one or more of many reasons. 1. To cause unease and discord between their victim and their friends. 2. To cause issues between the victim and family. 3. To instill fear in the victim. That fear being of how friends and family will view and treat them based on the bs by and from the bully. False apology While apologies are nice and good to do, but only when someone is genuinely sorry. Often times a bully won't apologize to be sincere, but rather for a number of other reasons. 1. To soften their image so they look less like a bully and help retain some sort of following that will have their back should they (the bully) start up their bullying again. 2. So if the victim speaks out, the bully and/or their friends can use it to make the victim appear as if they are out to get the bully or haven't moved on. This could be used to make the victim appear to be unstable. 3. An attempt to appear to be the better person. Blame a victim to another victim The bully will often use one victim to place the blame on for another getting the bullying they are getting. 1. Often used to get victims to attack each other. 2. Will direct a message to a victim and make it seem like it's the fault of another for them being bullied. 3. Will often have "evidence" falsified and created to make it seem as if one of their victims slandered another. Jump in on threads Sometimes a bully will "jump in" to post threads that the victim is in. 1. They'll post a link with a little tidbit of enticement to get people to "check it out". That link could lead to a site with slanderous material about the victim. That could range from photoshopped images of convos that never took place or of things to make it seem like the victim did or said things they'd never do. It might even include a video with carefully put together manipulated things to paint a truth that is far from true. 2. Claims will be made of what the victim supposedly said and done. Photoshopped images may be shown. Possibly even bits and pieces of old convos shown and put together to paint the picture the bully wants people to see. 3. the bully mainly rants about the victim and how they did this and that. So much so they hope people will believe them based on "If it wasn't true, why would they be so stuck on it". Liking/Sharing abusive posts One of the most well none things a bully will do is share and like/favorite abusive posts. They'll often get others to do the same thing. 1. To help spread abuse and get it seen by more. They'll do so in such a way that people will join in thinking and seeing it as just "harmless fun". This way, others are more likely to give it attention and help spread it around. 2. To help rumors spread further and stick. 3. To give the appearance to the victim, should they see the abusive post, that alot of people just don't like them. 4. To contribute towards giving the victim a bad rep. Persistent pressure to talk to a specific person Persistent pressure to talk to a particular person to resolve a "supposed" matter that the bully claims there to be.. 1. Frequent messages and subtweets/posts to the victim pressuring them to talk to them (the bully) or a friend of theirs. 2. Will try to get the victim to believe it is their only option. Bully an apology The bully will get pushy regarding their victim to get them to apologize what they want them to apologize for. Often times they do this to those who did nothing wrong. 1. Attack the victim in one of numerous ways as they demand an apology. Therefore implying it won't stop until the apology is given. 2. A purpose of this is so the bully can record (screenshot or video) the apology so they have something to use against the victim later. Often as an admission of guilt. This is why it is not a good idea for anyone to apologize for something they didn't do just to get someone off their back. 3. A way to demean the victim to make them believe they did something wrong. The Job whine and attack When someone is unemployed either temporarily or permanently, this is also prime time for bullies to attack. 1. Persistently complain and point out that their victim is jobless. Will often over do it or do it at times they think their victim will be most affected by something. 2. Attack the victim's character and try to make it seem like something about them is why they're jobless or over exaggerate the real reason. 3. Will harass and slander a victim via slanderous sites or postings which can easily be found by an internet search. Then complain about the victim being jobless without thinking they (the bully) are very likely a large reason their victim is due to the horrendous slander and defamation they have created and spread far and wide. Using their kids to help bully Some bullies will enlist the help of their own kids or kids they know in helping them bully others. 1. Have their child help them hack the account of someone they don't like if they know more about how to. 2. Will have their own child, or one they know, do bullying for them for the simple fact that they are a minor and penalties (if caught) are not as stiff for adults. 3. Will have their child record them making fun of someone, but will lead the child to believe it is them just doing their own random imitations. Either that or will come up with another reason. Sit back and watch Seeing a crime and doing nothing, when you can, is just as bad as doing the crime yourself. Some bullies will stir up their friends and just watch as they torment their victim. 1. To appear powerful to the victim by making it seem like people will listen to them and bother them (the victim) if they (the bully) should ask. 2. To take pleasure in the misery of their victim. Create petitions The bully will create a petition regarding the victim as for the purpose of humiliating them. 1. Create a petition whose subject will be the victim and the target is the head honco of a social media platform they are on. A) The purpose will be calling for the victim's suspension or banning for whatever reason the bully states. B) The bully will be a few of their own signature. Will often use a VPN and switch servers so the VPN is different everytime. C) Will pass around the position and present what they will portray as a good reason in order to get others to sign, pass it around, and get more signature. D) Will repeatedly try to get attention to the petition from the main people that run social site. 2. Create a petition that calls attention to something embarrassing about the victim. 3. Create a petition as a means to make fun of the victim in some way. Make a Fundraiser Will create a fundraiser as a means to humiliate the victims or get them in trouble. 1. Will create an online fundraiser pretending to be the victim or someone know to them. A) Will come up with a heartfelt reason to get people to donate. B) Will make it so those donating can easily find the victim, check them out for themselves in hopes (by the bully) that people will see the victim as a scammer running a fraudulent campaign. 2. Will create the fundraiser just to humiliate the victim for something. ALWAYS RIGHT (unless being wrong serves a purpose) While much of the time the bully "always has to be right", sometimes they will admit some fault. 1. An attempt to get the victim to listen and gain a response. A) This is mainly used on victims who do not acknowledge anything about what the bully says or does. B) To make themselves look like they're sorry (when they're not) in hopes the victim's friend will encourage the victim to talk to them. 2. To make themselves appear like they're sorry and gain attention for "trying to do the right thing". 3. To make it seem like they are turning over a new leaf for the purpose of making the victim looking bad and/or obsessed about them should they speak up. Victim bashing over more attention on an issue. When victim gets more attention on an issue than the bully does, the bully might claim the victim somehow stole from then. 1. The bully bad mouths the victim to those they've been talking to. 2. The bully talks about the victim to those they know while telling enough of a story. A) to entice them to attack the victim. B) to entice them to help spread vicious rumors about the victim. 3. Will try to make it look as if the victim is only speaking on the issue at hand because of them. A) Will try to make it seem like a method of stalking them. B) Will try to make it seem like it is part of some obsession with them. Stalking and lurking their social media Will stalk and lurk the social media belonging to the victim in hopes of finding something they can "use". 1. Will take any pictures that are slightly less than perfect. A) To make fun of them. B) Pass them around in hopes others will make fun. 2. Will take something said in an attempt to twist it around. A) To make it seem like something sinister. B) To make it seem like it is about them. C) To make it seem like it is some kind of hidden confession. 3. For the purposes of gathering info for a detailed dox. 4. For gathering info to put together in a way so as to use later on to try and intimidate the victim for some purpose. Excuses to contact Often times a bully will look for excuses to contact their victim. Often times it's an attempt to get a response out of the victim. 1. Might send a private message claiming, in an enticing way, they have information for them. 2. Act angry about something claimed about the victim in hopes the victim will contact them to "straighten it out". 3. Pretend to be concerned. 4. Offer condolences if the victim is going through something in hopes the victim will respond so they (the bully) can initiate a convo that will eventually lead to the bully trying to "trap" the victim in some form. False accusations with back up Will make false accusations in an attempt to intimidate for some purpose. 1. Will have things photoshopped to make it seem like the victim said and did things they'd never do. A) Go to tweet faking sites, create fake tweets, and then accuse their victim of doing it. B) Create a social media account in victims name, attack others, and have their friends back up the lies and claims by the bully that it is the victim. C) Will create their own email headers and photoshop them into a pic to make it seem like an email came from someone it didn't. 2. Will have friends back up the lies so people will believe them based on the fact that "so many are saying it and wouldn't be if it wasn't true" false ideal. 3. Will spew forth so many lies about the victim so any accusation made seems more believable. "They're all bots!" The bully will often claim those close to the victim, on a given social media site, are all bots. 1. To make the victim appear unstable, devious, and/or "crazy" 2. In order to discredit the victim and harm their credibility. 3. To smear their reputation and make them appear to be "cheat" or worse. 4. To scare off friends. A) Hoping the friend will get angry at and/or blame the victim for being accused of nd thought of being a bot. B) Hoping the person will stop talking to the victim in order to avoid the abuse. Revenge Porn Revenge porn is posting nude or partial nude photos of the victim. This is often a desperate tactic for a bully. 1. Might post a nude or partially nude picture they (the bully) has of the victim that was sent to them. A) Post upon a revenge porn site. B) Post upon the victim's social media. C) Post in random spots. 2. Will pass around around a nude or partially nude picture that was sent to them. A) Send to friends or family. B) Send to co-workers. C) Send to victim's contacts. 3. Will photoshop a victim's head on to a naked body. A) Pass it around to others. B) Encourage others to pass it around. C) Will post it in places or just show others while claiming it was sent to them by the victim. Doxxing One of the most common things a bully does as an attempt to scare, blackmail, and/or humiliate the victim. 1. Will stalk victim's social media in order to gather information to put together for a "dox". 2. Will pretend to be someone other than who they are to... A) get to know the victim so they can get information for a dox on the victim. B) get to know the victim's friend in hopes of hearing something they can use to add to a dox or help dox the victim. 3. Will use a dox to scare a victim off social media for a number of reasons. 4. Will use a dox to blackmail the victim. A) Make a demand and threaten to share dox if it is not met. B) Will post the dox anytime the victim does something the bully doesn't like so as to "train" them do do things to how the bully thinks they should. 5. Will share the dox with their friends coupled with nasty rumors as a means to encourage it to be spread around. Denying a friend is a bully Alot of the times a friend or two (of the bully) will adamantly deny that obvious bully, that's their friend, is a bully. 1. Will try to steer attention away from their friend's horrible bullying behavior. 2. Will try to justify their bully friend's actions. 3. Will try to convince the victim that they are wrong. A) Will keep telling the victim they misunderstood so the victim will begin to think they're wrong or feel bad. B) Will point out little things about the victim to make it seem like they're wrong and make them feel wrong. 4. Will click "like" or "favorite" on an abusive status their friend's while trying to claim their friend isn't a bully. 5. Will just flat out deny it by saying their friend isn't a bully. Threats Classic action of a bully is to threaten their victim in orde tto get a demand met, scare them, make them vulnerable, or even discredit them. 1. Threaten the victim in a way so as to scare them off social media. 2. Will threaten to post something true or false that will embarrass the victim such as a dox or anything that can make the victim look bad. . 3. Death threats. 4. Threat to pin their (the bully) actions on the victim. 5. A threat to ruin the life of the victim or someone close to them. 6. Threats of harm. 7. Threats to take something from the victim. Hit And Run Postings Basically the bully posts things and deletes them, as soon as they think the victim has viewed it, in hopes of getting their attention in some way. 1. To make the victim mad. A) So they will lash out and the bully can cry victim, while making it seem like the victim attack first. B) So they will likely rant and rage to their friends and look silly because the bully would have already deleted their post. 2. To unnerve the victim. 3. To gain a reaction that the bully can later twist and use to make the victim look bad. Spread rumors and lies One of the most classic tactics by a bully; spread rumors and lies about the victim. 1. To get the victim lots of negative attention. A) The more others attack the victim, the less the bully has to... so they can "keep their nose as clean as possible". B) Take pleasure in watching the victim being tormented by others so they won't have to put in the work themselves. 2. To enjoy the victim's misery. A) Because of the rumors & lies and how hurtful they are. B) Because of all the negative attention the victim is getting. 3. To damage the victim's reputation. 4. To mess with the victim's ability to find work or accomplish anything. 5. To get people to shun the victim. Twisting and manipulating posts Sometimes a bully will try to make it seem like a post is about something that it is not. 1. Will try to make it seem like a post is about them. A) For the purpose of playing victim. B) To make the victim look bad. 2. To make the victim look like they meant something different to a particular person that is likely to react badly towards the victim over the false perception. 3. To unnerve the victim in hopes they will obsessively try to "clear up" things and try to explain what they meant. A) To make the victim look unhinged as they feverishly explain. B) So they look anxious and the bully can make it seem like guilt and/or deflection. 4. To get the victim negative attention. Concerned person trying to warn The bully will act like they are just a "concerned person" trying to do others a favor by warning them about the victim. 1. Will show people a few photoshopped images that discredit the victim and give a reason for wanting to warn others. 2. Will make frequent posts about the victim with links to slanderous material about them while preaching they're trying to warn the public of a great perceived threat. 3. Will claim they're a victim and don't want the same to happen to others in hopes others will listen and possibly pass around the warning about the victim. Obvious to victim, but not others The bully will say and do things that are often obvious to the victim but not others. 1. Some slick sub-posting in hopes the victim will see and react badly so the bully can play victim. 2. Will find a reason to talk about subjects sensitive to the victim in order to unnerve them enough that they react in a way the bully can use to make them look bad. Speaking for others While trashing, attacking, or just talking the victim, the bully will act as if they're speaking for "everyone" (or close). 1. While making fun of the victim, will claim "everyone thinks/says so". 2. Will claim "No one" likes the victim. 3. Will claim someone said something that they didn't. Faking a disability Will fake a disability for a number of reasons. 1. To play the victim easier. 2. So their victim looks bad if they speak out about them. 3. To play innocent and look like they couldn't possibly bully someone with the disability they (the bully) claims to have. 4. Will claim their child has a disability they don't have. A) For attention. B) For pity. C) To distract attention away from their horrible behavior. Attempt to scare off of social media A bully will sometimes try to scare their victim off of social media. 1. Will often do this when they get tired of looking bad for bothering someone that doesn't bother them. 2. So when the bully bad mouth the victim, there isn't any (or much) interaction around that has a chance to show what the bully says about them isn't true. 3. Will make threats of all kinds. A) To dox. B) To post things that will humiliate the victim or make them look bad. C) To "swat" them and make it seem like there is a legitimate reason. Excuses to criticize While criticism is normal, a bully will look for excuses to criticize. 1. When the victim is having a bad day. 2. When the victim makes a mistake; even a tiny one. 3. When someone else tries to pick a fight with the victim. 4. Just because they feel like it. 5. Poke at the victim's weight. 6. Poke at the victim's flaws. 7. When they (the bully) does better than the victim at something. 8. When the victim says something the bully doesn't agree with. A) Will try to make it seem like it was necessary for them (the bully) to comment the way they (the bully) just did. B) Will try to make it seem like the victim said something wrong to the point of deserving an attack by them (the bully). Frequent bad posts The bully will often make unfavorable posts about the victim. 1. Post photoshopped images to make it seem like the victim said and/or did things they didn't. 2. Just rant and rage about the victim for some reason. 3. Post pics of the victim and make fun of them. 4. Show posts made by the victim and finds a reason to make fun of them. 5. Will post crude things said by other about the victim. Following/Friending accounts targeting the victim The bully will follow other social media accounts that are targeting the victim. 1. To make them victim feel uneasy. 2. To make the victim feel outnumbered. 3. Hopes to get info regarding the victim. A) For a dox. B) To use in attacking them later. 4. In hopes they'll follow back and help spread more hate, lies, and rumors about the victim. Involve others in their bulls**t The bully will try involving others in their campaign against the victim. 1. Will try to convince others the victim is a threat to them. 2. Will try to convince others that they'll be a big help if they helped warn others about the victim. 3. Rant and rage about the victim to others in hopes they'll join in too. Encourage blocking Will encourage people to block their (the bully) victim on social media. 1. On Twitter, will try to get those with alot of subscribers to their block list, to block their (the bully) victim. A) In hopes their (the bully) victim's tweets will get less attention. B) The more that will seem to shun the victim. 2. To try and make the victim feel like they are not liked and make them wonder if the problem is them. 3. An attempt to scare the victim off social media. 4. Will make a public post encouraging others to block their victim. Encourage reporting of posts & profile A bully will try to encourage others to report a victim's social media posts and profiles. 1. Will randomly message others with a believable reason as to why they should report a victim's posts and/or profile. 2. In hopes the victim's posts will disappear. 3. In hopes somehow the victim's social media profile will be deleted/suspended. 4. Will makes public posts encouraging others to report their victim. "Got the goods" Often time s the bully will say something to make it seem like they "got the goods" on the victim. 1. Will make public posts that will tease and give the impression they have something on the victim. A) That condemns them. B) That makes them look like a fraud or hypocrite. C) That they have proof to some sinister thing they claim the victim did. 2. Might message the victim and push their buttons in a way so as to suggest they got something on them. A) To scare the victim into talking to them. B) To cause the victim to react in a way that they can later use. Building an opposite following Sometimes the bully will try to build a following in regards to something that is an opposite of what their victim is into for the purpose of having more listeners to when they choose to complain about the victim. 1. If the victim is Republican/Conservative, the bully will try to build followers and friendships with those whom are Democrat/Liberal. 2. If the victims likes a particular character in a TV show, the bully will try to build a following with people who like a character that is a rival to that one the victim likes. 3. Will build a following in something the victim doesn't like. Threats over being caught and/or punished When a bully is caught doing wrong or loses a social media account over their actions, they might make threats towards and/or regarding their victim. 1. Will say something similar or close to "You/he/she do not want to get on my bad side." 2. Will say something that is similar or close to "You're/he's/she's starting to get on my bad side." 3. Will make threats regarding a victim of theirs when a social media account of theirs (the bully's) is suspended for bad/hateful behavior. 4. When someone points out what they did wrong, they make threats towards or regarding the victim. A) To give off the impression the victim did something wrong and the bully has a right to be angry. B) To intimidate and/or scare the victim hoping they won't report their bullying again. Cellphone "fake and zoom" Sometimes to be more believable, a bully will use their cellphone to take a picture of a photoshopped picture. Then zoom in so any proof the picture is not the bully looking at an active page and not just a pic brought up on a PC via a program, is not visible. 1. So onlookers will see it and think because it was taken with a cellphone that the contents are real. 2. To further make the victim look bad and discredit them. 3. To attempt to gain credibility to later use to slander and defame their victim. Over bragging While it is normal for people to brag once in awhile, a bully will overdo it. 1. Will often brag about good fortune that is either not true or will stretch the truth. A) For the purpose of making their victims feel like their lives are mediocre compared to theirs. B) To make themselves look more fabulous in hopes of gaining more followers/friends that will see their rants about their victim and/or possibly be willing to listen to them. 2. To give the impressions of power and/or superiority. Profile Creation to post Victim Info A common practice amongst bullies is to create a social media profile just to post info about their victim. 1. To unnerve the victim enough for a response. 2. To scare the victim into giving them something they want. A) Talk to them. B) Disappear from social media. C) Provide info they want that they can twist and use later on another. 3. Humiliate the victim. 4. Encourage others to join in on bullying the victim. Won't sincerely admit fault or responsibility Alot of the times a bully might appear to be changing for the better, but a dead give away that it is just an act is their inability to admit fault and accept responsibility for their actions. 1. Will avoid the issue altogether in hopes those who know about their horrible deeds will eventually forget. 2. Will put the blame elsewhere; thing, situation, or person. 3. Might admit fault to some things and pretend to be sorrowful in hopes everyone will forget about all of their deeds or atleast pass that off as an apology for everything. SWAT This is when the bully calls the police and sends them to the victim's house by making up a seemingly believable reason. 1. Will pretend to be concerned and go as far as lying by saying the victim threatened to kill themself. 2. Will claim they're concerned for the victim's well being. A) Will twist something the victim said that is cause for the concern. B) Will try to make the victim appear to be unstable and ask for a "wellness check". 3. Will pretend to be the victim on a social media profile and act unstable while trying to sound like the victim as much as possible. A) Will point out the unstable behavior to friends in hopes they'll help swat. B) Will swat the victim themselves while pointing out that profile. Bully/Pressure to sex While sex is a natural thing between 2 consenting people. sometimes some people will "Bully" or put too much pressure on a person to get it. 1. Will use the classic line "If you love/care about me..." 2. Will try to guilt the other. A) Will keep pointing out they took them out to dinner and paid for everything that night (others if they have) and imply "You owe me". B) Will persistently point out to them they've gotten them gifts and it would be the kind thing to do. 3. Will physically hit the victim and imply it will stop once the victim agrees to sex. 4. Will try to manipulate the victim into agreeing to sex. A) By making threats. B) Blackmail. Conversation manipulation One thing nearly all bullies love to do is try to make the conversation go or look a certain way. 1. Attempt to make it seem like the victim is saying or has said something different than what they are. 2. Will try to change the subject. A) To play victim. B) To divert attention away from their misdeeds. C) To talk themselves up 3. Will show extreme emotion at key times to mislead others into believing they've been greatly affected by what the bully wants them to believe they've been affected by. Fake "team up" Will chill out from attacking the victim for awhile and claim other bullies that bother them (victim) are also bothering them (bully) while asking for some "team up" of sorts. 1. In hopes to get the victim to talk to them. 2. Hoping the victim will confide in them details about how they were treated due to the projected belief they share a common bond. A) The common bond being supposedly the same bully. B) For the purpose of using what the victim says to target their bully for their (bully) own agenda. 3. Dislike of the "supposed common" bully: A) Victim wants the bullying to end. Bully is mad at the other bully B) Wants to use victim to take out their common enemy as in reporting their social media and using anything the victim says to get others involved. 4. The bully wanting the team up makes the victim feel like they have a common enemy and attempts to get the victims to talk. A) Should the victim start "talking", the bully wanting the "team up" passes it along to the "supposed" bully in common to be used to hurt the victim. B) Should the victim not talk, they might get made and go after their common bully in their victim's name. Win win for the bully. Book/Blog threats A threat by the bully to post a blog or include the victim in their book as something less than favorable. 1. "This will go in my book/blog" said when the victim isn't doing what the bully wants them to do. 2. Each time the bully fails to get the victim's attention, they post a blog. Seeming sudden turnaround When a bully seems to have made a sudden turn around from hard core stalking and bullying, but is just suppressing their bad nature temporarily. 1. A very sudden change from extremely mean to nice. A) Likely for some agenda yet to be known. B) To give the impression to wandering eyes that they're a nice person so when they rage again, those wandering eyes will most likely see them as having a very good reason. 2. To give the impression of hard work and effort in that they can change. A) In order to gain a following of people so they have more to listen to them. B) Just enough til people have almost forgotten about their bad deeds. Pretend to be friend while putting victim out there Will put forth the image that the victim is a friend, while hiding their less than favorable true intentions. 1. If the bully's friend poke at the victim, they do not have their back by asking them to stop. A) Might claim to be staying out of it. B) Will pretend to be busy. C) Will try to excuse the behavior. 2. Will create a profile that mocks the victim. A) Will blame another bully for it. B) Will claim to be reporting it so they appear to be a dutiful friend when in reality they are not. C) Pretends to be outraged by the profile so the victim won't have a clue their "supposed friend" is stabbing them in the back. 3. Creates a fake profile they use to befriend their victim's other bullies. A) To pass off information to them they can use to poke at the victim. B) To feed them false info to give them more reason to attack the victim. 4. Creates fake profile to message random people. A) To get the victim more haters. B) To earn friendship of random people so they're more likely to listen to the bully that is bad mouthing their victim. Pretty presentation to raise questions Sometimes a bully will put together a collection of things that took time to put together in order to cause questions to be raised about the victim. 1. A collection of screenshots (true, false, & twisted) will be put together that will be most likely to catch the attention of wandering eyes. 2. A collection of various materials (true, false, & twisted) put into a video in such a way so as to catch and keep attention. "No one likes them" The bully will try to tell and convince others that "no one" likes the victim. 1. To help gain more haters for the victim. 2. To try and make the victim feel insecure should they (the victim) see their posts. 3. To make the victim look like bad news by trying to convince others that no one likes them. 4. In hopes of convincing their friends to avoid the victim. Gain followers to help spread hate The bully will try to gain more followers/friends to their social media for the purpose of spreading their hate further. 1. The more people to listen to the hate the bully spews forth about the victim. 2. The more people that there are to possibly help spread the hate thinking they are doing the bully a favor. Looking for reasons to talk about same things victim is Sometimes a bully will look for a reason to talk about the same things their victim is. 1. To unnerve the victim. 2. To hopefully make the victim mad enough to come at them. A) So they can play innocent victim and make the victim look bad. 3. Hopes the victim will complain to their friends and that their friends will see them as someone that... A) Complains too much. B) Is unstable. C) Nitpicks over nothing. 4. Hopes the victim will pay attention and start sub-posting them. A) So they have an excuse to complain about the victim. B) So they can make the victim seem obsessed. Send a friend to start arguement The bully might send a friend of theirs to try and start an argument with the victim. 1. The bully's friend might use another profile, and possibly multiple profiles, so it looks like random people. A) Which makes the victim look like they are the problem and just love to make everyone mad. B) To make the victim doubt themselves and wonder if they're doing something wrong. 2. In hopes of embarrassing the victim by making it seem like they... A) Don't have all the facts. B) Don't know what they're talking about. Blame and reel back Sometimes the bully will put the blame for their actions elsewhere in hopes of reeling the victim back to them. 1. For the purpose of using and abusing again. 2. Will play on past good times to get the victim to open up to them again. A) To have material they can some how use against them later. B) To have stuff to give their other bullies. "Afraid of a few simple questions" Bully might claim the victim is afraid to answer "simple questions". 1. Might make this claim when they direct questions at a victim ignoring them. 2. To humiliate the victim by making it seem like they have something to hide. False identity The bully accuses the victim of being someone they aren't. 1. Victim is most likely accused of being someone that has ALOT MORE haters. A) Since hate for the victim existed under false pretenses, even the most innocent things the victim says or does will be viewed in some twisted or bad light. B) By the time people figure it's not the person they're lead to believe, there will still be some haters for the victim. 2. To unnerve the victim enough to give them (the bully) a reaction that they can use in some way. 3. To make the victim feel unworthy of their own individuality. Frequent 1UPing When the victim shows happiness or enjoyment, the bully figures out a way to "do better" than the victim. 1. To make the victim feel mediocre, like they can't measure up. 2. To make themselves appear to be better than the victim to others. 3. Puff up their own ego. Bully for a friend Sometimes the bully will bully someone a friend of theirs has a disagreement with. 1. To make it seem like they got their friend's back. 2. To make themselves appear to be more powerful based on "Mess with one, you get the pack" mentality. Cycling through actions Occasionally a bully will "change up" their action upon their victim. 1. In hopes of keeping the attention they already get. 2. So their actions don't appear to be overused. 3. So they look less like the problem. Staging power The bully will say and do things to make themselves appear powerful and more powerful than they already are. 1. Try to scare people off social media that they think can easily be scared off and make the reason for it seem justifiable. A) Goes after "easy targets". The easier the target, the easier scared off. The more that get scared off. Makes the bully look more powerful. B) To gain respect amongst other bullies and those they might want help from. 2. To bring themselves (the bully) up by making others miserable. A) Confidence helps with power. B) Helps keep those from challenging the bully. 3. Tries to gain as many followers on social media as they can. A) Gives the impression alot of people listen to them. B) Makes victims feel intimidated in thnking alot like and listen to the bully. Work-around isolation When a bully fails to get many from the general public to block the victim and help encourage others to do so, they will resort to more shadier tactics; a workaround. 1. Will get others within their own circles to block them. A) Randomly message those within their (the victim's) circles with slanderous (& untrue) material to get them to block the victim and encourage others to do so as well. B) Will creates profiles to pretend to be the victim, cause trouble, and then use their own profiles to blame the victim. 2. Will get their friends to find friends of theirs with influence to get them to block the victim and get others to do so as well. A) Helps to avoid connecting the blocking campaign to the bully. B) Helps get more haters for the victim. C) Helps get even more people to block the victim. Makes believe misfortune and bad luck is the victim's fault Bully will blame the victim for their bad luck and misfortune. 1. To avoid taking any responsibility they may have had in their own misfortune. 2. To avoid looking weak. 3. In hopes others will take pity on them... A) And go after their victim for them. B) And help them go after their victim. 4. To make the victim look as bad as they and other bullies claim they are. A) To make the lies put forth about the victim seem more true. B) To make the victim look less credible. Shaming reasons The bully looks for reasons to shame the victim. 1. If the victim is overweight, they shame them for their weight in obvious and non-obvious ways. 2. For blemishes they have. 3. Shame for any deformities. 4. Shame for a recent tragedy. 5. Shame over little mistakes. The "FOREVER" victim Will overuse "Forever victim" and "Forever the victim" when speaking of their victim. 1. Trying to imply that the victim is annoying and justifies the bully ranting about them. 2. To imply that the victim has a habit of "playing victim". 3. To make people curious enough to ask the bully "what the victim did" to them. 4. To make the victim feel bad like they've done something wrong. I will close this off by saying this. The tactics above, are tactics and actions I've seen and heard of many bullies using on their victims. The purpose here is to bring awareness.